Divorce is known to be one of the most stressful events in someone\u2019s life. And one can understand why. The event itself is an emotional whirlwind, not to mention financially stressful. If kids are involved, it\u2019s just plain complicated.<\/p>\n
But the start of the divorce is not where the stress starts. On average<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, an individual spends two years thinking about divorce before taking action on it And when we are checking out of a relationship, it\u2019s not usually a joyful time.<\/p>\n The whole process can make you rethink everything you know about love and relationships. But it doesn\u2019t mean that a healthy relationship is not in the cards for you. It is, and it can be.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re ready to meet someone new, here are some important areas to consider before you sign up for dating on Tinder, eHarmony or hit the streets in search of a new beau.<\/p>\n Get support and do the inner work to heal from your\u00a0divorce<\/b><\/p>\n The healing process will look different for everyone. It\u2019s important to take time to process what happened and get back to a healthy emotional state before you begin dating again. Only you can determine when you\u2019re truly ready. During this time, it\u2019s important to reclaim your interests and begin re-building healthy friendships.<\/p>\n Get clear on what you\u2019re looking for in a\u00a0partner<\/b><\/p>\n Before you create a dating profile and sign up for the hottest dating app, consider what you\u2019re actually searching for. You\u2019ll improve your chances of matching and meeting with the right types of people if you\u2019re mindful and intentional about it. Great relationships are based on shared values, so understand what truly matters to you before you start your search.<\/p>\n Understand the kind of relationship you want to\u00a0have<\/b><\/p>\n Since your last relationship ended, you may want to think about the type of relationship you\u2019re interested in creating. Want more kids? Say so. Looking for a partner who enjoys adventures and travel? Be clear about that too. Consider the kind of relationship you want to have and make sure that\u2019s what you\u2019re attracting.<\/p>\n Set boundaries around the use of\u00a0apps<\/b><\/p>\n If this is your first time using dating apps, or you\u2019re exploring it again, you\u2019re going to need to have some boundaries in place. While dating apps can be a great way to meet potential partners, they also can stress us out and take our time away from other healthy pursuits. Don\u2019t rely strictly on dating apps. There are other ways to meet great people and you should know how to approach women in public as well. Make sure you know when to put your phone down so you\u2019re not spending hours mindlessly scrolling or falling behind in other areas of life. Dating apps can be addictive, like all forms of social media, so be conscious of how you use them and what\u2019s going to work best for you. Are you planning to go on dates every day of the week? For single dads, what about during the days and weekends you have your kids? Make sure you know when you\u2019re available so you\u2019re not feeling pulled in one hundred directions.<\/p>\n To your success in dating, Kimberly Hill is a leading Dating & Relationship Coach For Men, and Host of\u00a0The Self-Confidence Project Podcast.<\/a>\u00a0You can follow her on Instagram\u00a0@kimberlyninahill.\u00a0<\/a>For more information, go to\u00a0www.kimberlyninahill.com.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n
\nKimberly<\/p>\n