There’s a reason millions of women are hooked on the new show Off Campus, even swooning over men half their age. And it isn’t the age, and it isn’t that the characters are hockey players. It’s the way those men tap into the real psychological elements of female desire and every woman watching finds herself quietly wishing the man in her life could do the same. In this episode I break down exactly what that is, because it’s not about some technique with your hands you need to learn. It’s about the layers of psychology and emotion that actually draw a woman in. And yes, this absolutely is a skill, it’s just not the one you’ve been taught to believe you need. It has nothing to do with a fancy move or the one thing your ex happened to like, and everything to do with locking in so completely to the woman in front of you that she feels safe enough to truly let go. Quick note: this is for two people who’ve already established real, mutual attraction because that always has to come first. This is for good-hearted men dating after divorce or a long-term relationship who want a genuinely loving connection, not just another date.
Off Campus show • what women want in a relationship • how to build attraction • female desire explained • how to make a woman feel safe • dating after divorce for men
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There’s a reason why millions of women are hooked on a brand new TV show called Off Campus, even women who find themselves swooning over a man half their age. And it’s not because of the age, and it’s not because the men in the show are hockey players. Of course, those are good factors, but it’s because of the way these characters, these men, tap into the real psychological elements of female desire.
And every woman who has found herself Watching the show is quietly wishing the man in her life could do the exact same thing. So today, this is exactly what I’m gonna share with you. I’m gonna break down why and how the men in the show connect so well to women from an intimate perspective, and how these men drive women absolutely wild, so powerfully that it reaches through the screen, and it gets the women that are watching it too.
[00:01:00] And I promise you this: This is not a video that’s gonna teach you one technique with your hands or with your body that you need to learn. It’s about the layers of psychology and emotion that actually drive a woman crazy. So if you’re dating, if there’s a woman in your life right now, if you’re on the verge of maybe becoming intimate with her, please watch this episode.
Okay. Now, welcome to this channel. As many of you know, my name is Kimberly Hill, and I’m a dating and relationship coach for men. I support good-hearted men to attract deeply loving relationships and go on to maintain those relationships. Now, a lot of men that end up finding my podcast or those YouTube videos are frustrated with dating.
They’re experiencing, you know, patterns that keep playing out, where, you know, they have short-lived relationships, or they keep attracting emotionally unavailable women, or things just aren’t working out. It seems to be happening on repeat. Now, if that is you, I put together a free guide called Why You’re [00:02:00] Not Finding Love.
It’s nine chapters, it’s very direct, and it’s gonna explain what’s going on and why these patterns keep popping up in your dating and love life with women, and it’s gonna show you exactly why. So the link to grab that is free. It’s in the description of this podcast show and many of the other ones. You can sign up for it, and it- I’ll send you an email immediately with it.
Now, for many of you that have been watching this YouTube channel for a while or listening to the podcast before it even came on YouTube, many of you are going, “Okay, I’ve consumed a lot of content about dating, but I really am ready to apply it to my life and do the work.” And a lot of you also know that my current practice is full and that I won’t be taking one-on-one clients for the near future.
I’m also gonna be taking time off to start a family. But I’m not leaving you guys hanging. YouTube videos will continue coming out, and for those of you that actually want to get as close to one-on-one work as possible, that is why I’ve created Dating Mastery for Men. It is my [00:03:00] self-paced program. It’s built specifically for you.
It goes places this channel will never go and is structured to take you from understanding what’s going on within yourself with dating to actually applying it in your dating life so you can attract and have the relationship you desire, a healthy one, a loving one, with a great woman, so you can go on adventures, you can have great intimacy.
This channel is for good men that want loving, healthy relationships. Now- You can check that out. It’s in the description here as well. But let’s get into today’s exciting video. Now, a little quick note before we fully begin. This video is very much for men who have already established that there’s a woman that they genuinely like, that genuinely likes them, and you wanna move towards each other in an intimate way, um, because of course real attraction has to come before anything physical.
So if you’re not dating right now, or you don’t have a woman in your life, that is fine. Take this information, put it in your back [00:04:00] pocket, ’cause you are going to need it, okay? Um, but of course once you’re there… So let’s say you have a woman, you’ve gone on a couple dates, you know intimacy is forthcoming.
This is what is gonna drive- I’m gonna tell you all of this as a woman, because what I am about to describe is what so many of us women feel deeply, but for some reason, we just never say it out loud to the men in our lives. We’re too shy. We’re too intimidated. We don’t have the words. We haven’t figured it out, but we sure as hell know it when we read it in a good book or we see it on a good series.
So I wanna start with the very first tip that is gonna drive a woman wild, and that a lot of the stuff I’m gonna share with you might feel counterintuitive. But the first one is to slow all the way down. Like really slow down. When we are excited and things are heating up, you’re having your first kiss, you’re moving towards intimacy [00:05:00] that’s, you know, beyond the first kiss, the natural pull for almost all of us is to move towards the good bit and to the finish line.
And that instinct is very, very human, and every single one of us feels it, women included. But the real magic, okay, the real magic happens when you consciously resist it, and you savor every step instead. When women read romance novels, the part when she’s feeling very attracted to the man and he lingers is the part that women read and get like completely flooded with all of the good things.
Okay. So the instinct again is completely normal for one of us to speed up and get to the good bit. But if you linger, if you take your time, you will drive a woman wild because this is something that nobody says out loud. When it comes to intimacy, [00:06:00] anticipation of what’s coming is the pleasure for women.
Our mind goes absolutely crazy thinking about what’s coming, and it floods us with the emotions and the feelings that are gonna take us to level 1,000. So the slow build, the almost doing it, the waiting for it to happen, that is not the boring part before the good part. For a woman, very often it is the good part.
We just haven’t figured out how to tell you that. Now, when you slow down, what you are ultimately telling the woman in front of you is that, “I’m not rushing towards a destination. I’m in the moment savoring you,” and that is what’s so intoxicating to women. Now, secondly, and this is the very heart of it, this thing is misunderstood a lot, and that is [00:07:00] consent is not taking a pause or a big awkward break from the seduction itself.
It is the seduction. Now, the myth that floats around out there is that when you check in with a woman about whether she likes something or wants something different, um, that somehow this is clinical, that this is some kind of a mood breaker, and it’s simply not true. When you pay attention to a woman in intimate moments, when you are reading her, when you actually ask her and then respond to what she tells you, you are showing her she is safe with you.
You’re there with her. You’re listening to her. You care about what she wants, and safety isn’t unsexy. Safety is what lets a woman actually surrender to you. It’s what lets a woman go, “I fully trust this man, and I can actually submit to him in this healthy way.” So she, she or any woman really can’t fully let go with a [00:08:00] man she doesn’t trust fully.
Now, a woman might trust you enough to explore intimacy with you but maybe doesn’t trust you fully to let go. Her body just won’t simply allow it. So when you check in, the attentiveness that you’re giving her, the making sure that she is right there with you every step of the way, that isn’t some polite bit that you do before you get to the good bit.
It is the very thing that unlocks her desire. Trust is the aphrodisiac for women, and there’s a scene in Off Campus where this is taking place. It’s a very steamy scene. Um, believe it or not, the characters don’t even touch one another. There’s just eye contact and a lot of safety and a lot of direction, a lot of self-pleasure, but here’s what it looks like in practice.
So rather than many of us kind of moving through intimacy with our own assumptions and hoping that we’ve got it right, you notice or you ask low and warm, [00:09:00] you know, in context with what’s going on, “Does that feel good for you?” And you will genuinely adjust to her answer. Now, women will sometimes squeak out an answer for you okay?
So you have to be paying attention to that, but this kind of attention that you give her is what is making you unforgettable because it tells this woman that’s under you, in front of you, on top of you, that her pleasure is the actual point, not some kind of afterthought. Okay. Third is touch is the conversation, not a monologue.
Now, for a lot of us, it’s easy to fall into a familiar intimate routine, the moves that worked before in your previous marriage in the order that you tended to do them in, and maybe you’ve only had experience that looks and feels a certain way. But as you know, guys, women are not some combination lock.
So Instead, pay attention to her, her [00:10:00] breath, the way her body is shifting towards you or might tense up, the small sounds she’s making, where she leans in and where she really pulls back. All of that is information, and she’s giving it to you constantly. Now, oftentimes women aren’t gonna be very direct or explicit.
It’s just our nature as women. We tend to be more indirect, so we’ll give you all those hints with our body language, with our breathing, with our squeaks and our sounds There are women that will say, “Do this, do that, don’t do this, don’t do this,” and they are a little more direct and explicit, but not as often will you come across a woman like that.
So when you touch a woman based on how she is responding, she feels something very rare from you. She feels very, very seen, and she feels like the intimacy is happening with her, not to her. Now, fourth, guys, is to build tension [00:11:00] through restraint. This is where the real heat lives, okay? And it’s the most counterintuitive o- of all, is that you don’t rush to the obvious places.
You start slow and very unhurried with women, a hand at the small of her back or along her arm or the side of her neck. You linger a little bit longer where a woman doesn’t expect you to, and you let there be this almost. Like, you get close to her, and then you don’t. Not quite yet. Like, in your mind, you’re kinda like, “You can’t have me yet.
You’re gonna have to wait. We’re gonna build this all up.” Because desire, for women in particular, is built in the space between. Every moment that you can hold back, she can f- while she feels how much you actually want her and she wants you, you’re just winding that tension so much tighter. [00:12:00] Now, the man who is willing to take his time, the man who makes her wait just a little bit until she is the one calling out for you, reaching out for you, wanting you to do whatever it is she wants you to do, that is the man she does not forget.
So the pause in intimacy, the delaying it, is not the absence of the moment, okay? The pause is the moment for women. That’s when we’re, like, going crazy in our minds, thinking about what’s coming next. And sometimes, believe it or not, the thinking about what’s coming next is what makes the next thing 10 times more powerful.
It isn’t about some fancy technique. It’s about how you’re unlocking desire in a woman’s mind so she is relaxed, submitting, going with it, feeling the pleasure. It doesn’t need to be some crazy backwards handstand or whatever else, and I’ll talk about that in a moment. So this kind of control, the willingness to draw [00:13:00] it out instead of rushing to the end, is the entire difference between a man where she might have a good intimate time with but, you know, quickly becomes more forgettable, and a man and the intimacy that she just never, ever, ever, ever will forget.
And the fifth thing, guys, and the one that ties all of this together, is to be completely present. This means Gently letting go of all the other shit that’s going on in life. And this is why it’s very hard for men and women to do this, is we have to-do lists, or we have credit card debt, or we have mortgage renewals, or we have kids that are in trouble at school, or we have annoying mother-in-laws, or whatever it is that is going on can take us really out of the present moment and stops us from doing all of these other things.
So we kind of rush through intimacy because it’s like we just gotta get it done like everything else on our list. Well, that’s not very sexy now, is it? So we need to slow down, be in the moment, [00:14:00] just be there with this woman, because a woman can feel the different instantly between a man who is kind of caught up in his own head and a man who is genuinely present in that moment and really feels that he can be.
She’s gonna remember how safe, how wanted you made her feel, and that you weren’t rushing through it to reach some end goal. That feeling is created entirely by your presence. So let us bring it all home. And don’t get me wrong, okay? All of this is absolutely a skill. It’s just not the skill that many of us men and women have been taught to believe.
Women grew up reading Cosmopolitan, trying to think about fancy techniques to drive men wild. Maybe some of those work, maybe some of those don’t for certain guys. And guys, you know, have… believe many different things about intimacy with women, and oftentimes those things aren’t really what matters because great [00:15:00] intimacy is not about pulling off some backwards handstand Kamasutra style or showing off the one new technique your ex liked.
It’s a quieter, far more powerful skill. It’s pacing. It’s closeness. It’s anticipation. It’s the kind of presence that keeps her thinking about you, like, forever, for days. It’s slowing down. It’s making her feel safe. It’s paying close attention to what she is saying with her little noises, with her body, and it’s building up that tension, and it’s locking in so completely to the woman in front of you that you can actually hear those small directions that she’s already giving you.
And honestly, this is exactly how women write men in books and shows that we fall for. It’s just we’re really, really bad at telling you guys in real life. But the secret is we [00:16:00] know what we want, we just don’t really know how to tell you, so I’m telling you here today, right now. So tune in, go tease that woman, go touch her in ex- unexpected ways, slow it all down, be really focused on the moment, and watch how it drives her absolutely crazy.
So before I go, guys, thank you very much for tuning in to today. Please share it with anyone that just wants to hear this, needs this piece of advice. Go check out my free guide, go check out Dating Mastery for Men, and of course, just thank you for your time and attention. I look forward to another episode with all of you next week.
Ciao.
